I freaking hate being a woman sometimes.  You don’t ever see catfights among men, do you?  Instead of being happy for one another, we fight amongst each other.

So the next battle to be fought is that it is so much easier to be a work at home mom than a working mom.  I’ve got two words for you:  Bite Me.  No, seriously.  I would LOVE to work in an office.  I would love to not have my house be a mess, but since I am on call 24/7 from all facets of my life that falls to the waysite.  Oh wait, so does my blogging (have you seen how I’m not updating lately.  Yeah, that’s called lack of time).  Unlike “working moms”, on top of running my own freelance gigs, I have to drum up new business too.  Oh yeah, I have to still get up and shower and get ready since I have video conference calls and I meet with clients — sometimes at my house too.  While I am meeting prospective clients do I get paid for that?  Nope.  Do you get paid for every minute your at work?  I am pretty sure you do.  Yesterday, I went to a conference.  Nobody pays my way to go there.  That’s out of my own pocket.  I put in over 40 hour weeks most weeks.  You go home — your “work” day is done.  I suck at work/life balance and I work from home.  I actually find that balance harder when you work from home, because you always have to on.

Don’t get me wrong.  I love freelancing.  I live in Chicago — there is no way we can afford daycare even if I did work.  I am able to work around my kids activities  How did we pull off staying home?  We gave up the extras.  We sold our house and moved.  It’s called making sacrifices.  My freelance work I do now has allowed for the extras, the trips, the basement remodel, Madison’s tuition next year, etc.  It use to pay for bills. You know, the grass is always greener elsewhere.  I just don’t appreciate getting told (from another woman none-the-less) that I am less worthy than her since she works outside the house.  It comes down to choices.  I choose not to go back into the work force while they chose to work outside the home.  That’s your choice — don’t look down on me because that’s not my choice.

To be honest, I think all moms work just as hard as the next.  Your thoughts?