As many of you know, I’ve had a miscarriage.  It sucked.  It still sucks.  However, when I read articles about how Utah wants to be able to prosecute women who have miscarriages, it makes me angry.  Why?  Over 15% – 20% of pregnancies end in miscarriage.  That’s just nature’s way of handling an nonviable pregnancy.

The bill responds to a case in which a Vernal woman allegedly paid a man $150 to beat her and cause miscarriage but could not be charged. The Senate approved criminalizing a woman’s “intentional, knowing, or reckless act” leading to a pregnancy’s illegal termination.  But here’s the problem — what is a knowing reckless act?  If you eat tuna and have a miscarriage, is that reckless?  If you fall down while pregnant, can you be charged (and the answer is yes because it happened in Iowa).  Writing for RH Reality Check, Rachel Larris says,

Using the legal standard of “reckless behavior” all a district attorney needs to show is that a woman behaved in a manner that is thought to cause miscarriage, even if she didn’t intend to lose the pregnancy. Drink too much alcohol and have a miscarriage? Under the new law such actions could be cause for prosecution.

That terrifies me. I was sent to the ER when I miscarried. It was a Friday night and my OBGYN wanted me to get checked out even though we both knew what was happening. Would I have went knowing that I chanced going to jail because somebody didn’t like me, the way I dress, or anything I said? Hell, no.  Heck, I had 2 different OBGYN’s for my pregnancies and both gave me different rules to follow.  If the doctor’s can’t agree, how the heck am I suppose to know if something I did caused a miscarriage.  Heck, I have an irritable uterus, so I’m most likely just screwed since my body doens’t like being pregnant and puts me into preterm labor.  I know, you are stating that they won’t go after the “good” people.  However, if you read the Iowa story, they do.

I’d love to know what you all think. Is this legislation taking it tad too far?

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Having lost a child myself and knowing many others who have also, please take a few minutes of your time and light a candle tomorrow night. Everyone knows someone who has went through this loss (and you may not even know it). According to the Center for Disease Control Trends, 983,000 babies died in 1996 from miscarriage and stillbirth. That figure does not include neonatal loss, SIDS, or other causes.  This is an old statistic, but that number is huge.  It has also went up since then.

A pregnancy or infant loss is not something you tell the whole world about. Often, it is something that you keep private. It is one of the most horrible experiences you can ever go though. I talk about it, because it is good for me, and I hope that it will help someone else. You will always have a hole in your heart, but it does get smaller.

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There may be some swearing, so you have been warned.

I just got a bill from a collection agency. Yes, a collection agency. Why am I so pissed? Because this is from my miscarriage last July. I have been fighting this bill since then. My insurance company was suppose to be picking up the bill since it was through the emergency room, so I only should have had a $50 copay. I thought this was taken care off. I have been going back and forth between Blue Cross and the hospital for months. I was told NOT to pay anything until the insurance paid their portion. The insurance paid, and I have been expecting a bill, so I could pay my $50 copay. Hence, the collection letter tonight. Trust me, I was pissed. We don’t need this crap. I can’t deal with this shit anymore. Every time I have to deal with this, it brings all the emotions that come with having a miscarriage back. I called my dad, and he said just to pay it ASAP and it won’t show up on our credit report. This is just crap.

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I would appreciate any help anyone can give me on this.

I had a miscarriage in July late on a Friday night. I called my doctor’s office who then told me to go to the Emergency Room which I did. I have BCBS health insurance and should only have a $50 copay for the emergency room.

I received my first bill in August or Sept. and nothing was being covered. When I called BCBS, I was told they need the date of onset and that it wasn’t being coded as emergency. I called the hospital and told them that. I thought this was taken care of.

Fast forward to now. This is a $1406 bill. I just hung up with BCBS, and they have now decided not to cover it because a missed abortion (which I guess is a miscarriage) is not an emergency service. It is an outpatient service even though I was treated through the emergency room and went there per my doctors request. They also told me it was pointless to try and get them to review the denial.

Here’s where you guys come in. I am sitting here crying and I don’t know what to do next. Anybody know how to fight this? BCBS won’t give me the CPT code that they need to cover this. I just don’t understand how they can deny the claim when I was told to go to the energency room by my doctor and then it is not an emergency. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!

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Lisa Martin is a native of Wisconsin but now resides in the Chicago area with her husband and two children ages 7 and 4. She is a work-at-home mom who uses her skills and talents for freelance jobs. At any given time, she’s usually tied-up with three or four projects in addition to her full-time blogging.

Lisa started blogging in April of 2006, as a means of keeping in touch with long-distance family and friends. After experiencing some personal issues in July of the same year, she learned she could help others with her experiences…through blogging. Lisa now discusses all of life’s issues while managing her four blog: My Thoughts, Ideas, and Ramblings; Lisa Reviews; Lisa Cooking; and Lisa’s Travels.

Lisa has participated in several exclusive media projects, including the Sony Mommy Bloggers Event in April of 2008, the Pampers Mommy Bloggers Event, the Epson Event in Chicago, the Stouffers Event in April 2009, a yacht ride with Lands End in July 2009, and 1-800-Baskets in October 2009. In addition to these personal appearances, Lisa’s blog has also been quoted in The New York Times and she has been interviewed by the Southtown Star, The Chicago Sun Times, and inside. She also spoke on the doterati panel Blog Marketing Demystified in October 2009. In 2010, she was invited to a blogger exclusive Mrs. Prindable’s tour and was also invited to The International Housewares Show. In 2011, she attended a special Hallmark event here in Chicago and a PopCap games event.

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