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As many of you know, I suffered a miscarriage in July. I have brought it up on here now and then. What I found is that people do not know what to do if you are grieving. This holds true if you are grieving a mother, sister, friends, or baby. People do not know what to do. I have 2 friends that both have suffered miscarriages. I did not know what to say to them either of them either (that is, till I went through it myself). However, they knew what to say to me when this horrible thing happened.

My miscarriage will always be with me. I will always wonder about that baby. The baby I am pregnant with now does not replace the one I lost. I have attended a support group in Hinsdale, IL called Still Missed. If you are grieving, it is something I suggest you do. It is nice being with people who understand what you are going through. They even have a support group for people like me who have subsequent pregnancies after a miscarriage. I am considering attending it in a couple of weeks. My mission with this post is that if you are grieving, there is help out there.

There are seven stages to grief. The stages are as follows: denial, anger, guilt, depression, forgiveness acceptance, and recovery. You may go back and forth from one stage to another. Most people have heard of these stages.

However, there is another list you should read. In my monthly newsletter, there was a list of “10 things that I learned about grief.” I am going to reprint the list here. These were written by Becky Russell.

1. Shock and denial last a very long time.
2. Grief is physically brutal.
3. My pain and tears make others uncomfortable.
4. It is difficult to grieve and help your family.
5. There is power in a card or letter.
6. Thank you notes can be overwhelming.
7. There is power in support groups.
8. Responses can be different than expected.
9. Everyone grieves in their own way.
10. Grief can be totally transforming.

If you have gone through anything like this, you are nodding you head as you read the list. I know I was. If you have not, please remember this list when you go to help others.

5 thoughts on “Grief”

  1. God love you and ease your pain. Sharing is one way to help the grieving process.May your baby be healthy and happy and live to give you grandchildren.

  2. Most of us don't know what to do with grief, whether our own or soeone elses. Mahalo for this remider that there is help in learning to live on in the face of devastating loss.My sympathies on this terrible loss, coupled with warm thoughts for you and the new little one you'll soon be holding.

  3. My sympathies to you on your loss. Thanks so much for sharing openly about the grief. A friend of mine is going through some really heavy grief right now and this is helpful for ME, so thank you.

  4. What an extremely important topic… thank you so much for bringing it to our attention.I am so sorry for your loss, but am encouraged to hear that you are actively seeking support. I wish you all the best with your current pregnancy.

  5. Soulful - Coping wit

    I am sorry for your loss! Grief is terribly difficult to handle and you are right, people don't know what to do or say. I have seen the affects of loss not only in my nursing career, but also had a miscarriage and lost both my Mom and brother all within two years. I think joining the group is a good idea, because it does help, especially if they share the same type of grief. I wish you the best of luck!

    Sheila at

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Lisa Martin

Lisa Martin

In April 2006, Lisa began blogging to stay connected with distant relatives and friends. As she delved into blogging, she discovered the potential to assist others by sharing her experiences. Lisa has actively engaged in numerous exclusive media ventures. Notable among these are her participation in events such as the Sony Mommy Bloggers Event, the Pampers Mommy Bloggers Event, the Epson Event in Chicago, the Stouffers Event, a memorable yacht excursion with Lands End, collaborations with 1-800-Baskets, an exclusive tour for bloggers by Mrs. Prindable’s, partnerships with Hallmark, PopCap games, Chicago Cubs Mastercard Priceless Events, and Rug Doctor. In addition, she has collaborated with Nutrisystem on a weight loss initiative, teamed up with Buick and Chevy, and served as a brand ambassador for Sprint. Lisa's collaboration portfolio also extends to Disney, where she has participated in press trips for significant movies such as Frozen, Guardians of the Galaxy, McFarland USA, The Good Dinosaur, The BFG, and Cars 3. Notably, for projects like Frozen, The BFG, and Cars 3, she was granted the privilege of walking the red carpet and conducting interviews with celebrities. The impact of Lisa's blog has gained recognition, with The New York Times referencing her content. Moreover, she has been featured in interviews by respected publications such as the Southtown Star, The Chicago Sun Times, and inside.View Author posts

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