Communicating with your teen may seem like the end of the world. This is a difficult age for parents and children. The teen years are full of moments where your child will push you away and then pull you close. It’s a time where your child wants to be more independent but still needs your unconditional love and support.
Teenagers are often horrible at communicating with their parents. I’m not sure why, but it seems grunts and “I don’t know” are the two most famous catchphrases for teens. With all that being said, communicating with your teen can happen and it doesn’t have to be stressful. Use my tips to start communicating with your teen so that you can continue enjoying time with your teen without so much silence or grunts.
How to Communicate Better with Your Teen
Be a Listener
Now is not the time to start giving lectures about life lessons. Believe it or not, most times your teen already knows the way to handle difficult situations or challenging topics with their peers. If your teen is confiding in you about something that concerns them then, be a good listener. Hear everything they’re saying and don’t interrupt. Only when they’re finished should you try to have a discussion about what they’ve said.
Don’t Make it a Life Lesson
Teenagers will shut down as quick as a whip if they feel like you’re lecturing them or giving them sort of life lesson chat. Once your teen has finished talking to you about something, if they stick around and seem open to a discussion, then ask questions. Asking direct questions will help you better understand how your teen feels about the topic and if perhaps, you can sneak in a little tip that can help them.
Spend Time Together
You may find that your teen is very sporadic with how they communicate with you. One day they may be all chipper and overly talkative, then the next day barely utters a word to you. This is quite common with teenagers. Consider taking a few moments each day to sit with your teen or take a drive so that you two can have some time together, this may help them open up.
Teens want to be trusted just as much as you want to trust them. Try to find ways that you can trust your teen with big decisions or certain tasks. You could volunteer a decision about something that maybe the family is debating or consider giving them a curfew to show that you do trust them and will give them some lead way to make decisions so as long as they continue to follow household rules.
Taking the time to listen, communicate with lecturing, spending time together and showing trust will all work together in a magical way to help you communicate better with your teen. I hope that you’ll use my tips shared today to start opening up the communication lines between your teen and you today.